Ole Gunnar Solskjær is getting a lot of praise today. Will he be rejected tomorrow?
The Old Trafford faithfuls are currently praising and chanting Solskjær’s name with a lot of passion. Since his appointment, he has dramatically turned the club around to a winning team again.
A massive “20LEGEND” banner always greets the newly appointed manager at the stand during every match. The question is, how long will it take for the praises to turn to rejection? The fans are shouting “Hosannah” today, will they cry out “crucify him,” tomorrow?
Solskjær took over from José Mourinho, who was rejected by the club last December, after two and a half years at the helm of affairs at Old Trafford. Mourinho has been out of a job since he was sacked by Manchester United and admits he misses coaching and he is hopeful for a chance to lead a squad again.
Can you handle rejection?
Have you ever noticed how being turned down can affect people? Rejection can stop some people from trying again, while others bounce back from rejection stronger than before! Everyone experiences the sting of rejection, but mentally strong people use that pain to grow stronger and become better.
Whether you were excluded from a school, a social engagement, or turned down after a job interview, or denied a promotion opportunity, rejection hurts. However, the way you choose to respond to rejection can determine the entire course of your future.
Today, Solskjær is celebrated
Manchester United looks rejuvenated under Solskjær’s management. The team is now full of attacking intent under the Norwegian, who has so far won the majority of the games during his tenure. But, when Manchester United’s Chief Executive, Ed Woodward made a phone call to the Norwegian club Molde to ask about Solskjær’s availability, it was a “complete surprise” according to Molde managing director Oystein Neerland.
When the announcement was made about Solskjær’s recruitment, on a temporary basis as a caretaker manager at that time, rumours had it that there was very little support for the 45-year-old from the United’s current players.
There were doubts in the dressing room about Solskjær’s personality, according to some sources. It was said that players wondered whether he might be a bit too soft, particularly given the egos in the current squad. The man nicknamed “the Baby-faced Assassin” began to work with the senior players and even after that, succeeded in motivating the players, by getting them to bring out their best performances in the club.
He is currently celebrated. But, would he be able to handle rejection when it finally comes? Rejection can make you feel lonely. But, there are ways of dealing with it.
Make rejection your stepping stone
Here are three ways mentally strong people overcome rejection:
- They don’t live in denials
When they are rejected, mentally strong people acknowledge their emotions. They admit when they’re embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential for coping with their discomfort healthily.
Whether you’ve been turned down for a promotion, or missed out on an important career opportunity, rejection stings and the best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is not to live in denials, but to face them head-on. Rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, mentally strong people ‘take the blow on the chin’ and decide to move on.
- Don’t let rejection define you
After a rejection, it can be tempting to indulge excessively in our anger or brood over our circumstances, but this can lead to a victimised mindset in which we get stuck in our suffering and don’t particularly feel like we have much power. Avoid a victimised mindset.
If one’s employer turns one down for a job, that does not necessarily mean that one is not good enough. If someone is rejected by a single love interest, that does not mean they’re unlovable. One person’s opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. Don’t let your self-worth depend on other people’s opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn’t mean it’s true.
- Don’t fail to learn from rejection
Mentally strong people ask themselves, “How can I learn from this?” so they can use rejection as a tool for improvement. Rather than merely tolerate the rejection and feel sorry for yourself, turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. With each rejection, you can grow stronger and become better. Rejection can be a good teacher. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward.
Our ability to see things as “changeable” can have a strong influence on how we deal with rejection. It remains to be seen whether Solskjær will be rejected in the future by Manchester United. As he continues his brilliant start to life at Old Trafford, he has earned his right to “Hosannah.” But how long will it take his brethren to drag him to Pontius Pilate and seek his crucifixion, as they did with José Mourinho and all other managers before him?