Rejected by men Chosen by God
• Rejected by West Bromwich Albion as a manager.
• Rejected by Birmingham City for the vacant post of a manager.
• Di Matteo settled for a lower position, not as a manager, but as one of the coaches at Chelsea.
• When his boss, the manager, was sacked he was not the preferred replacement as a permanent manager.
• When Chelsea decided to recruit a caretaker manager instead, he was not the first option, he was the 3rd choice.
• But then, he won a trophy no other Chelsea manager had ever won. He became the first manager to help Chelsea win a European Champions League Trophy.
The stone rejected by the builders becomes the cornerstone.
Some say he was too young for the job, others say he was too inexperienced for his position, but destiny says he was just the right person to help Chelsea become the Champions of Europe.
Logic says human beings, like plants, grow in the soil of acceptance, not in the atmosphere of rejection; but Roberto Di Matteo and Chelsea Football Club defy logic – they seem to know how to thrive in an atmosphere of disappointments and rejections.
Your disappointment could lead to an appointment Roberto Di Matteo: “sacked” by West Bromwich Football Club (FC). “Rejected” By Birmingham City FC. “Humbled” to become an Assistant at Chelsea FC, then became the third choice as an interim manager. Yet he successfully led Chelsea to European Championship victory.
Roberto did not declare himself the “Special One”, nor did he call himself the “Messiah”. His annual income was far lower than the allowances and bonuses of his predecessors. Yet, he got the job done!
He did not buy any player or build his own dream team. He worked with the remnants assigned to him, and during the Champions League final, he was forced to play without seven of his “best players” who were absent due to suspension.
All the odds seem to be stacked against Roberto and his Chelsea team. But on 19 May 2012, he guided Chelsea to win the 2012 UEFA Champions League final by defeating Bayern Munich after a penalty shootout, thereby giving Chelsea its first UEFA Champions League trophy.
When asked how he felt after winning the European Champions League final he said “I thank West Brom FC for sacking me and appreciate Birmingham FC for rejecting my application as coach thereafter.”
Your disappointment could be a blessing
You ought to start giving thanks for some of your disappointments. Because your disappointments are simply failure of expectations – and that does not mean – failure of destination. If you are destined to succeed, disappointments would not really hinder you.
More so, like Roberto, his disappointments were simply a stepping stone to his success.
If Joseph (the guy with the coat of many colours), was not rejected and sold into slavery by his brothers, he probably would never have found himself in Egypt where he became the Prime Minister.
That setback could be a blessing
If you suffer rejection, don’t be discouraged… don’t be upset, because that setback may be a set-up!
Rejection can have a negative effect. It can cause discouragement. It can make you give up and accept failure as your destiny. Oh yes, rejection could be a bitter pill, but only if you choose to swallow it. But if you spit it out, it’s only a matter of time before you‘ll no longer taste the bitterness.
The rejected stone
The stone which the builders refused (as explained in the Bible in Matthew 21:42-43; Mark 12:10-11; Acts 4:11; 1 Peter 2:7) became the principal stone placed at the corner of the edifice.
Jesus is a typical case study on this subject. He was the most rejected of all persons. He was rejected by His family; they even went on to say He was insane when He spoke of things beyond their comprehension. He was rejected and abandoned by his followers (disciples). He was rejected by the religious leaders of His time. He was right there with them while they searched for the Saviour. He was right there with them while they looked elsewhere for the Messiah.
The Bible says “He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” Isaiah 53:3
If Jesus could suffer rejection and conquer it, if Roberto could be rejected, yet he triumphed; don’t you think you stand a chance?
Don’t be so much bothered about rejections, your dog may not wag its tail to welcome you when you enter the front door, your mother-in-law may not be too excited about you, your teacher may not think highly of you – it doesn’t mean that they are always right. Don’t let it bother you. Sometimes you need to let things roll off you like water off a duck’s back.
Jesus himself expressed pain over rejection. “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her
chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!” Luke 13:34, NIV.
You’re only human
Rejection can be painful. Jesus was despised and rejected by men. He understands how it feels. “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering.” Isaiah 53:3, NIV.
Eleanor Roosevelt (social activist, first lady and the wife of US President Franklin Delano Roosevelt) said “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.”
Don’t give anyone the permission to make you feel rejected!